At My Father’s Funeral, The Gravedigger Whispered About An Empty Coffin-heuh

At my father’s funeral, I thought the grave would be the end of the worst day of my life.

I was wrong before the first handful of earth had even settled.

The coffin had just disappeared beneath the ground, the mourners were beginning to shift away in that awkward, polite way people do when grief has no more ceremony left, and the cold air still carried the last faint notes of the hymn.

Image

My mother stood beside the hearse with one hand over her mouth.

My wife, Chloe, had both our children pressed close to her coat, shielding them from the wind and from the sight of me trying not to fall apart.

I had been shaking hands for what felt like hours.

Every face came with the same careful expression.

Sorry for your loss.

He was a good man.

Such a shock.

I nodded each time because there was nothing else to do.

For three days, I had been the reliable son.

I had answered calls, chosen flowers, approved the notice, signed forms, and made sure every relative had somewhere to sit and something warm to drink.

I had listened while people told me the story of my father’s death as if repeating it made it kinder.

Gideon Vance had suffered a sudden heart attack.

No warning.

No time for help.

Gone before any of us could make sense of it.

I believed it because I needed to.

Grief is easier when it comes with paperwork.

Read More

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *